Love Stories – The Martha’s Vineyard Times

The Times asked some longtime island couples to share some of their top tips and some of their best moments together this Valentine’s Day. They all said they had enjoyed this trip in the past.

Eileen and Tim Malyey

Where and when did you meet? And what were your first impressions of each other?
Tim replied: We met on December 1, 1971, aboard SS Iberia’s last voyage from Vancouver, British Columbia, in transit to Australia, ₂ Re:. Part B, it was like at first sight.

You are invited to a dinner but you do not want to go. Who calls the host to cancel?
He says, “It’s women’s work. She says, “Tim doesn’t make phones.”

When was the last time you danced together and to what song?
It says: “Norman Mailer wrote ‘Tough Guys Don’t Dance’.” Eileen dances alone at her online exercise class.

Who does the cooking and what is your favorite thing they do?
Eileen cooks, Tim cleans. Favorites are dinners cooked by our close friends.

What’s the last thing you read aloud to each other?
Tim said “Probably a friend’s obituary.” Eileen says, “Probably something funny.”

Where did you go and what did you do on your first date?
Tim says: “Christmas 1971 in Double Bay, Sydney, in my apartment.” Eileen says: “Playing Quoits on Deck in the Howling North Pacific Wind, December 2, 1971”

Describe the best experience you have had together…
Tim says, “Spending the last half century together.” Eileen says, “Our trips when we had more energy, almost no money.”

Which of you is the first to ask for directions when you get lost?
Tim says, “Women’s work.

If you had the opportunity to have a second all-expenses-paid honeymoon, where would you go?
Tim says, “All expenses paid, huh?” Cronig’s. Eileen wants to stay home while he does his shopping.

What’s the best thing about being married or being with your long-term partner?
Tim says, “Exhaling with the feeling that I am walking away with something wonderful.” Eileen says, “All the comforts with no surprises.

Nancy Slonim Aronie and Joel Aronie

Where and when did you meet? And what were your first impressions of each other?
We met in 1965 on a blind date in Hartford, Connecticut. We had fun on the first date and we laughed a lot. We did songs with vocals.
He said he had never seen anything like me and I thought he was beautiful. But I wasn’t sure how smart he was because he said in a thick Boston accent, “You’re a hawt ticket,” and later he didn’t use the subjunctive. That must have been my criteria. Shortly after, I found his nuclear physics papers with A+.

You are invited to a dinner but you do not want to go. Who calls the host to cancel?
He never calls anyone, and we just end up going and having a good time.

When was the last time you danced together and to what song?
Yesterday. No music, we were singing:
“If you like sand dunes and salty air
quaint little houses here and there
You are sure to end up in old Cape Caaaa-od.

Who’s cooking and what’s your favorite thing they do?
Especially me. But lately, he’s been doing it. COVID was the catalyst, it makes eggplant parmigiana.

What’s the last thing you read aloud to yourself?
He’s reading my book club book, “Dirt Music” by Tim Winton, which I finished and loved. And I asked him to read what he had just finished reading so that I could be with him while he read.

Where did you go and what did you do on your first date?
We went to a Greek restaurant on the highway. Then a string quartet on a brand new outdoor place. My mom was there with her two girlfriends and our plan was for them to casually watch it.

Describe the best experience you have had together…
I can’t name a better time. There are a ton.

Which of you is the first to ask for directions when you get lost?
I ask for directions.

If you had the opportunity to have a second all-expenses-paid honeymoon, where would you go?
Our problem is not money. He is simply against air travel because of the CO₂ the plane emits. He is not a fan of those who travel at the moment. The climate emergency is pretty much on his mind most of the time.

What’s the best thing about being married or being with your longtime partner?One of the best things is probably that you’ve reached a point where there’s absolutely nothing to talk about. You realize how foolish it is to put energy into anger. Most of the way you think and what you would say is not new to each other. I think you’re starting to realize that you’ve chosen your teacher and when you stop resisting teaching, everything goes well. We pretty much figured out how to do harmony. I like being married. This month of August will celebrate its 55th anniversary and I consider that to be my greatest achievement!

Cynthia and Kevin McGrath

Where and when did you meet? And what were your first impressions of each other?
We met in high school. I thought he was cool. I thought she was hot.

You are invited to a dinner but you do not want to go. Who is calling the host to cancel?
Kevin, in a carefully crafted text.

When was the last time you danced together and to what song?
Taming Impala’s “frontier”. We didn’t have as much dancing as jumping up and down.

Who does the cooking and what is your favorite thing they do?
Kevin. Grilled swordfish (especially on the beach).

What’s the last thing you read aloud to yourself?
A news article about monkeys who escaped from a truck accident.

Where did you go and what did you do on your first date?
OOn one of our first dates, we had a wedding. We dressed up and drank champagne and danced and had our picture taken. We ended up doing this four or five more times since we got away with it the first time. Crazy children.
We have been together for 23 years. Our 21st wedding anniversary is this summer. fun fact: We got married on Friday the 13th! For each anniversary we give ourselves the “traditional material” as a gift. It’s like a treasure hunt. It could cost $1 or $100.

Describe the best experience you have had together…
See all of our favorite bands.

Which of you is the first to ask for directions when you get lost?
Cyn.

If you had the opportunity to have a second all-expenses-paid honeymoon, where would you go?
An ice hotel in Finland.

What’s the best thing about being married or being with your longtime partner?Laugh all the time.

Beth Kramer and Douglas Reid


Where and when did you meet?
We met at the Plum Beach Inn when I came to the island for a day visit in the summer of 1993. Douglas was the chef there.

And what were your first impressions of each other?
His first impression: “Great, a vegetarian. What a pain!” Mine: “What an asshole.” (I asked if he knew what the weather would be like the next day since I had to take the ferry and he replied: “I don’t know what the weather will be like here, but I know the ski conditions in Chile.”)

You are invited to a dinner but you do not want to go. Who calls the host to cancel?
You know I do.

When was the last time you danced together and to what song?
We danced together to a slow song at Maynard and Basia’s wedding.

Who does the cooking and what is your favorite thing they do?
Douglas is the chef. Although I pretty much all love it, its fresh tomato salad is perhaps the yummiest.

What’s the last thing you read aloud to yourself?
I just read Douglas the story of John and Shirley Mayhew written by Phyllis Mearas in 2005.

Where did you go and what did you do on your first date?
We cycled to Lucy Vincent Beach. There was a lot of swimming and smiling.

Describe the best experience you have had together…
We traveled to Costa Rica in 2005 exploring the mountains and the Pacific coast.

Which of you is the first to ask for directions when you get lost?
It would be me.

If you had the opportunity to have a second all-expenses-paid honeymoon, where would you go?
Douglas would like to go to South Beach, Miami – I would like to take him to the South of France.

What’s the best thing about being married or being with your longtime partner? Camaraderie.

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